As a parent, I often question whether I am doing the right thing. Every situation is different and how we handle it can make a huge difference in the way our child perceives us and the way they handle situations themselves.
Is my child going to end up a screaming lunatic if I yell at them for not cleaning up their room? Will they end up the kid in my basement playing video games at the age of 40 if I don’t give them enough responsibilities?
I question my parenting skills daily, but last night I got tears in my eyes as something happened on our drive home back a shopping excursion with the family.
My husband and I had dropped our oldest girls off at Michael’s while my husband went to Lowe’s and I held down the fort in our vehicle with our new baby puppy and the two youngest kiddos. The girls finished up first and they were to the vehicle giddy as all get out. My oldest was like, “Oh my gosh mom! The girl that was working there was sooo nice! I didn’t have enough money and she used her employee discount for me so I didn’t have to put anything back.” I asked her how much she was over and she said, “We miscalculated and were over by like five dollars. But the employee there said she remembers what it was like as a teenager to shop here and not have enough money so she used her discount…mom, that was soo nice!” She explained to me how she really wanted to go back and thank her because of how touched she was. I told her to go ahead if she wanted to.
So she did go back, thanked the employee, whose nametag said McKenzie and gave her $5. McKenzie said that she couldn’t accept the money, but my daughter insisted. “Yes, you can! It’s the least we can do for the nice thing you did for us!” The girl said, “Nobody has ever did anything like this for me!” She asked for a hug and as the girls left, she had a big smile on her face.
The story in itself was fun to hear, but what I was not prepared for were the words to follow.
“Mom, I love you. Thank you for raising me this way.”
MORAL OF THE STORY: Ahhh. It is these moments that make me forget about the stresses of parenting, if even for a moment.