Talking about Abstinence and Pregnancy with Your Teenager
Start out your conversation with this meme…because Ryan Gosling helps ease into a conversation a tad easier.
One of the hardest talks that parents need to have with their teenager is the one about sex and abstinence. It really isn’t something that is hard to talk about but it is really more awkward than anything else. Here is how you can talk about abstinence and pregnancy with your teenager. Um, awkward!
Here are some helpful tips for getting the information to your teen without feeling too awkward:
Choose the right time to talk– You want to find the right time to sit down and talk with your teen. A time when neither of you are in a hurry to get somewhere or distracted by other things. Sit down at the kitchen table, without any computers or tablets or cell phones. Start the conversation on the topic of abstinence, what it is exactly and how it is possible to have a relationship without engaging in sex.
Cover the topics of pregnancy and STD’s– The topics of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases are a vital part of this talk with your teen. Talk to them about how unprotected sex can lead to teen pregnancy. Also, discuss the various sexually transmitted diseases that unprotected sex can develop, including Herpes, HIV and Hepatitis.
The good news for my teens is that they go over this topic heavily in the 8th grade health class, so the birds and the bees conversation with your child doesn’t have to be soooo in depth and uncomfortable.
Cover the topic of birth control- It is important that you discuss birth control options with your teenager. They need to be aware that while birth control is designed to prevent pregnancy, most options don’t protect them against STD’s. Also, birth control options do not protect against pregnancy 100% either.
Perhaps end with a light-hearted quote??? “Don’t make me a grandma yet, kid!”
Provide complete and accurate facts- There are several websites that are not only reliable but also provide you with facts and statistics on teenage sex, abstinence and pregnancy. These sites in the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology, Planned Parenthood, The National Campaign and Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. It is important that when you are talking to your teens about a sensitive and crucial subject such as abstinence, you have honest and reliable facts and statistics to back-up your statements.
How did or will you approach “the talk”?