Things You Should Never Say to a Mom

Things You Should Never Say to a Mom

Being a mom is a full-time job all in itself. The last thing moms want to hear are comments, suggestions or questions from complete strangers. While most people say things, that may be out of place, with a good heart, there are also people out there that are just plain rude. Here are some things that most moms don’t want to hear.

You look tired- This is probably the worst thing you could say to a mom. Of course moms are tired, they are moms. All moms are tired and they certainly don’t need reminding that they look like they haven’t slept in days. You have quite a few grey hairs- Well, how rude! Unless the person is your hair stylist, then pointing out your grey hairs is totally rude.

Do you have a job? – Here is another rude question to ask any mom. Whether they stay at home or they work outside the home, every single mom on the planet has a job…it’s called being a mother. Moms work all shifts and even on weekends.

What do you do all day? – This one is geared towards stay at home moms. I don’t know why so many people assume that stay at home mothers just sit around all day watching soap operas. While some moms may do this, the majority of moms are busy from the time they get up in the morning until they hit the bed at night.

I would never let someone else raise my kids– This one is something a lot of working moms hear all the time. Just because a mother has a job outside the home, does not mean they don’t raise their kids. And it is not like they just drop off their kids with a complete stranger off the street while they work. Moms choose their child caretaker carefully.

You are breastfeeding, right? – This one is geared towards new moms. And it is a tough one to answer. On the one hand, you really have no desire to talk to a complete stranger about your boobs if you say yes. On the other hand, if you say no, you will likely have to deal with a guilt trip from a complete stranger.

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  1. I agree that all of these comments can sound terrible when you think about them out of the contest of a conversation. Sometimes people don’t know better or don’t realize how you will interpret these comments!

  2. OMG the “you look tired” one drives me nuts1 I had a regular at the bar i tend a few weeks say to (seriously) “I don’t usually look at your face but I notice that you lool very tired today” WTF!? people are so annoying sometimes, think before you speak people!

  3. Agreed! I have been a mom for almost 14 years now, and have 7 kids the comments I could write a book on. It gets so ridiculous!

  4. I totally agree with all this! All of us should really be sensitive to other person’s feelings. Respect is the keyword. If you don’t have anything good to say then don’t say anything at all.

  5. I can’t believe some people actually say these things but I’ve had a few things said to me that I can’t believe actually came out of someone’s mouth!

  6. I wish people would just be considerate of what they say in general no matter who they are talking to. My husband works at home and gets similar comments said to him that are hurtful.

  7. I have seen it so much lately where people are so judgemental and insensitive, and surprisingly it’s coming from parents themselves who think that they’re so perfect.

    I may not have kids and there’s a personal reason behind it, but because I don’t have them it means that I don’t know, or an opportunity for someone to belittle me because I don’t have them. My reason, is more favoured on choice, but I will not disclose it any further

  8. How plain rude are some people! I can’t even believe. I mean I’m not a mom and I’d think twice before saying any of this! x

  9. Im not a mom yet but I would never say any of these things! Some people need to think more before they speak. Being a mom is definitely a tough but very rewarding job.

  10. I love these. Sometimes I am completely shocked at the lack of filter some people have and it is like you cannot please them. Moms get judged in every aspect, if you work outside the home it is wrong, if you don’t work outside the home it is wrong. Unless you can clone yourself someone is always going to have an opinion. I love the examples you gave.

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