To let them cry or not to cry? That is the question.
When sleep training your baby, does letting them cry it out cause any damage to them down the road? Well, that depends on who you ask. Experts seem to have their own opinion about whether or not letting your baby cry it out is good or not. And it seems parents are divided on this subject as well.
Let me just say when my first baby cried (which was very rare..I actually had to poke her and rustle her from her sleep to make sure she was still breathing), I coddled her. I smooched her. I picked her up every second and made sure each of her basic needs at the time were met (diaper empty, belly full and there wasn’t built up gas in that tummy). Needless to say, there was no Cry It Out. Heck, at that time I don’t even think there was such thing as Cry It out.
What exactly is Cry It Out? The Cry It Out method involves putting a sleepy baby into their crib, with the goal of falling asleep on their own. Once you put your baby into their crib, give them hugs and kisses, say goodnight and exit the room. If they should start crying, you let them cry and eventually they will fall asleep. While this may be hard for some parents, it really is the only way to ensure they, as well as their baby, gets a good night’s sleep. Generally, it takes about 3 nights for this method to work, with the baby crying less each night. Essentially, your baby will learn to soothe himself to sleep each night at bedtime.
When should Cry It Out not be used? Cry It Out should not be used on newborns, babies who are sick or teething, babies who are hungry, babies who suffer with separation anxiety or parent with post-partum depression. Newborns don’t have sleep patterns that are mature enough to be meddled with and babies who are sick, teething, hungry or have separation anxiety are not physically or mentally strong enough to have their sleep pattern disturbed.
It is important to note that Cry It Out will not work the same for everyone. Just because your sister had success with the method for her baby, doesn’t mean it will work for you and your baby. If you try the Cry It Out method and after a few nights it doesn’t seem to be working, it is time to try another method.
The bottom line is that you, as a parent, knows what is best for your child. If letting your baby cry doesn’t feel right as a parent or you don’t think it is the right sleep training method for them, then follow your instinct and do what works for you and your baby.
Once I got to my 2nd and third baby, I’m not gonna lie. There was a bit of the Cry It out happening. I wasn’t so jumpy when it came to my baby letting the tears flow. There’s nothing wrong with working those lungs a bit!
So, what say you?